All About Lube

Lubrication may not always be top of mind, but it plays a more significant role in comfort and pleasure than many realize. Whether you’re just starting to explore or have been using it for a while, the right lube can make a noticeable difference in enjoyment and overall health. Plus, different types of lube are better suited for specific uses—whether it's with toys, for anal play, or for extended sessions with clients.

So let’s talk about lube, one of the unsung heroes that can take your experience from "meh" to "wow" in seconds!

Myths Surrounding Lubrication

Myth: Lube is only for people with sexual challenges.

Fact: Lubrication can enhance pleasure and comfort for everyone, whether or not there are any challenges.

Myth: Lube is messy and inconvenient.

Fact: Many lubes are designed to be non-greasy and easy to clean up, making them as convenient as possible.

Myth: You only need lube for vaginal dryness.

Fact: Lube is great for all kinds of play—whether you're using toys, engaging in anal play, or simply want extra slip for comfort.

Myth: Lube is only for women.

Fact: People of all genders can benefit from lube to enhance sensation, comfort, and pleasure.

Risks of Not Using Lube or Relying on Spit

Increased friction & discomfort: Without lube, friction can lead to soreness, irritation, and minor skin tears, especially with prolonged or intense play.

Reduced pleasure: Lube enhances smoothness and sensation, so without it, things can feel dry or uncomfortable, lowering overall enjoyment.

Spit dries quickly: Saliva may seem like a quick fix, but it dries fast and doesn’t provide lasting moisture, causing you to reapply and disrupting the flow.

Saliva isn’t pH-balanced, so it can cause irritation, especially on sensitive skin, and increase the risk of infection.

Damage to toys & condoms: Oil-based lubes, or spit can break down latex condoms and certain toy materials, reducing their effectiveness and safety.

Which Lubrication is Best?

For Vaginal Play

Water-based lubes are usually the best option for vaginal play. They’re gentle on the sensitive skin around the vaginal area, easy to clean up, and come in a variety of formulas, including some with added moisturizers for extra comfort.

Silicone-based lubes can also be used, especially for longer-lasting lubrication. Be mindful of the clean-up, as silicone lubes can be harder to wash off.

For Anal Play

Silicone-based lubes are ideal for anal play. These thick, long-lasting lubes have a smooth, slippery feel, which is especially important for reducing friction in sensitive areas. Plus, they don’t dry out as quickly, meaning less reapplication.

Water-based lubes can also work but dry up faster, so you might need to reapply more often. If you choose a water-based lube, look for one that’s extra-thick or designed for anal play.

Key Differences for Vaginal and Anal Play

For anal play, choose thicker, longer-lasting lubes (silicone-based or thick water-based) to minimize friction and ensure smooth entry.

For vaginal play, opt for water-based lubes that are gentle, easy to clean, and safe for sensitive skin.

For Toys

When pairing lube with toys, the toy's material matters to ensure you get the best experience and keep your toys in good shape. You’ll want to steer clear of silicone-based lubes for silicone toys, as they can cause the material to break down over time, making your toy sticky or less smooth. Instead, water-based lubes are perfect for silicone toys. They're gentle, easy to clean, and won’t damage the material. Some water-based options are extra moisturizing, making your playtime even more comfortable.

If you're using rubber or TPE (thermoplastic elastomer) toys, you’re in luck—both water-based and silicone-based lubes generally work well. These materials are more durable for silicone lubes, but it's always a good idea to do a quick test first to ensure no weird reaction. Since these non-porous materials won't react with the lube, you can use any type of lube for glass, metal, or stainless steel toys: water, silicone, or oil-based. Just be aware that oil-based lubes can be harder to clean up, but they provide a smooth glide. Matching the right lube to your toy's material isn’t just about keeping everything running smoothly; it also helps your toys last longer and ensures a better experience every time.

TIP! If you’re using an oil-based lubrication, make sure to steer clear of condoms, as oil breaks down latex.

Lube Precautions for Models

Using toys and lube multiple times a day can be fun. Still, it’s essential to take a few safety precautions to ensure everything stays safe, hygienic, and enjoyable, especially when you are engaging with clients one after another:

1. Clean Your Toys Between Uses

Wash thoroughly: After each use, clean your sex toys by washing them in warm water, a fragrance-free soap, or a toy cleaner. This helps eliminate bacteria buildup, which can lead to infections, discomfort, itching, and more.

Dry properly: Before using your toys again, ensure they are completely dry. If they are damp, they can cause irritation or discomfort.

2. Use Fresh Lube

Avoid reusing lube: Even if you’re using the same toy, don’t use the lube already on it from a previous round. Old lube can dry out, become sticky, or pick up bacteria.

Reapply as needed: If you use the toy repeatedly, apply fresh lube each time to maintain comfort and reduce friction.

3. Pay Attention to Your Skin

Monitor irritation: If you use toys and lube multiple times daily, check in with your body and pay attention to any reactions. Any signs of irritation, redness, or discomfort mean it’s time to take a break or switch up your lube.

Consider sensitive skin: If you're using the same lube for extended periods, choose one that’s gentle and free of harsh chemicals, fragrances, or glycerin, which can cause irritation.

4. Change Between Different Types of Play

Switch lube types when necessary: If you’re switching between anal and vaginal play (or using toys in different areas), make sure to use a new, clean toy or clean your toy thoroughly before switching. Avoid cross-contaminating lube from one area to another, leading to infections or discomfort.

5. Take Breaks

Rest your body: If you’re using toys and lube repeatedly, taking breaks is essential to avoid overstimulation or physical discomfort. Your body needs time to reset and recover.

And there you have everything you need to know about lubes, toys, and making sure things go smoothly (literally). Whether you're a lube newbie or a seasoned lubrication pro, don’t be afraid to experiment and find what works best for you because why settle for less than the best when it comes to pleasure? Remember: the right lube can turn good into great, and extra care goes a long way. So play safe, stay slippery, and enjoy the ride. You deserve it.