JOI

JOI. Have you seen these three letters and thought, what on earth does that mean? Just… Orgasm… Nope. Jerk off instruction. This means that a user wants to be told how to jerk off. As with all kinks and fetishes, this means something a little different for everyone. If a user requests it, ask them to explain what they really want. Try to keep it sexy as you gather the details: “Ooo that sounds hot to me. What turns you on the most about JOI?”

Some users want actual instruction: “Slowly stroke all the way up over the tip and all the way down to the base of your cock. Now faster and firmer!” Some want gentle encouragement and mostly enjoy being watched: “Mmm I love seeing such a nice hard cock. Keep jerking off just for me. That’s right, keep going.” Others want denial or edging as part of the experience: “Sit on your hands until I tell you to stroke again. I want to see you throbbing.” And even others may want a countdown or permission to cum.

On a video call or a custom video, you might use a toy to demonstrate how you want the user to handle his cock.

On an audio call or custom audio, focus on your delivery. You might slowly draw out each word or start to speak faster with more energy. Consider sending multiple, shorter audio messages as opposed to one long one (depending on whether the user has specific requests).

Though JOI might be a bit more challenging over text, simply write out the instructions. Space out the messages you send. Encourage the user to send you pics or vids to prove that they’re following your direction.

JOI is fairly common. If you’re still feeling awkward about instruction, search for JOI porn to get some inspiration—just remember to make it your own if you borrow ideas. It’s more genuine that way, and users can tell.