Keep Engaged:
Carrying the Conversation

The ability to lead a conversation is crucial for success not just on SextPanther but also across the wide world of SW. Since you’re paid per message the user sends on SP, you need the user to continue responding for those dollars to keep rolling in. Though some users are experienced and naturally chatty, many others are inexperienced, nervous and shy, or just plain boring. You may be surprised, but even clients who are dominant (or who are topping from the bottom) may not know how to keep a scene going without your prompts.

Points to Keep in Mind

• Remember that people—inside and outside the SW world—want to feel validated and special. Often, they come to you because they don’t feel this in their daily lives. What this means for your work is that you need to appear interested even if you aren’t. You don’t need to engage in conversations that cross personal boundaries; set those limits and keep them. Rather, if you’ve willingly joined this conversation, give the user the attention they’re seeking.

• Generally speaking, people can most easily talk about themselves even if they don’t realize it. Think about it—someone may not know how to describe the three branches of government, but they can certainly tell you about their work day and what they had for dinner.

• The cardinal rule of consistency applies here as well. Nothing kills a texting session faster than a long pause between exchanges. Consistently respond quickly. If a user has to wait too long, they’ll move on. You don’t want to give them the opportunity to navigate away from your conversation and become distracted by another model or anything else on their screen.

• Always ask questions!

Starting a New Conversation

• Users may not be super comfortable diving into their fetishes right away, though some may open with them. Start slow if they don’t open with a kink or specific request. Ask about their day or something vanilla before moving into sexy talk. Stretch out that conversation.

• If a user opens strong with their fetishes/kinks or specific requests, still ask questions to encourage them to explain more. Encourage details both about the fetish itself and why it turns them on.

• Authentic engagement is key. Don’t simply drop media and expect a response. Even if they’ve requested it, follow up with a question or prompt.

Jumpstarting a Stalled Conversation

• Review your notes to pull on anything you know about the user. Use this knowledge to ask a question. Since you already know this person a little, you’ll know whether to start vanilla or jump directly into dirty talk. The key here is to say something that requires a response. “Hey baby” is not enough.

• Prompt them to engage by sending them paid, locked media you know they’ll enjoy, priced without sticker shock. Be as specific as possible to their kinks. You want to spark their unstoppable urges. Don’t stop there, though! Ask them what they think, what they’d do, how it makes them feel, etc. If that worked, send another piece of media, but be careful not to bombard them with only media and no conversation.

• Propose a new scene or vividly paint a picture of a new experience. Again, you want to pull on what you know about the user to get them excited and responding. You can reuse conversation starters and scenarios that were successful with other users with similar interests, tweaking to anything specific you know.

Of course you’ll run into users who just don’t respond or give you little to go on. Try using a variety of these strategies to discover what works best for you and what triggers each individual user. Confidently lead that conversation!